April 13, 2019

Importance of an Empathetic Therapist for Chronic Traumatization

Finding a compassionate and empathetic therapist is a must to heal from trauma.

Vets, if we do not develop a connection with our therapist, it’s unlikely we will keep our appointments. If missing an appointment call to cancel, and reschedule, so another vet can take your place.

There is no time frame in healing from war trauma.

We may feel an urgent need to purge, or have a sense of never being able to talk about our experiences. Similar to running distances we need to pace ourselves in therapy so we do not retraumatize ourselves, and return to our old coping habits.

It might take a couple of therapists to find the right one, so it’s important to keep appointments even if your not feeling secure in sharing. If after three or four visits, a rapport is not developed with your mental health practitioner, ask for a Change of Provider form at the counter.

To increase the likelihood of approval, write lack of rapport or connection, and do not feel they can help. It may take up to three months to see another therapist.

Remember, your mental health is important. Keep your appointments, and find the right person to guide you through the process. An empathetic therapist is paramount to healing from trauma.

Our emotional and spiritual centers are damaged, to find our way through the wreckage of our minds, we need a guiding hand. A ‘therapeutic window’ is an empathetic connection between the therapist and client, enabling a safe place for exploration of traumatic memories and events.

Traumatic events shape our lives, and alter the way we process information. Especially chronic traumatization, our symptoms mimic depression, bi-polar disorder, and personality disorders. We can be misdiagnosed by a less knowledgeable and skilled practitioner.

Veterans with chronic trauma need an empathetic practitioner, knowledgeable in the latest treatment modalities to take our emotional hand and guide us through the wreckage of our minds.
It is helpful for therapists to understand the implications of structural dissociation as an undue division of the personality, how it manifests, and how it must be treated. They should strive to understand the importance not only for psychodynamic, relational and behavioral aspects of treatment, but also become proficient in assessing and working with the mental energy and mental levels of patients. Therapists need to analyze survivors’ mental and behavioral actions for adaptively. (The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization, van der Hart, Nijenhuis and Steele).
The dissociative features of chronic trauma have a distinct set of emotional states we cycle through distinct from the others, the common symptom such as anger and rage to the less talked about emotional numbing to the different personas that can emerge from trauma states.

December 13, 2017

Complex PTSD and Out of Body Experiences

Robert Lanza, the author of Biocentrism, is a heralded biologist, and a leading quantum theorist. He posits that we live inside a galactic entity, that all matter contains some amount of consciousness. He also states that when we die our consciousness returns to the proto-consciousness that permeates the cosmos.
In 2007, Lanza published a feature article, “A New Theory of the Universe” in The American Scholar, a leading intellectual journal which has previously published works by Albert Einstein, Margaret Mead, and Carl Sagan, among others. His theory places biology above the other sciences in an attempt to solve one of nature’s biggest puzzles, the theory of everything that other disciplines have been pursuing for the last century. This new view has become known as Biocentrism.
It has been said by other scientists that this is the source of out-of-body experiences. I have had three out-of-body experiences. One time during an encounter with a bottle neck of our tanks, I popped out of my Bradley Fighting Vehicle, so that I could see 360. I was able to know where to place the rest of the brigade into protected positions.

The first time, I traveled the universe as a child during a traumatic event. When I was 5 years old a man raped me. The only memory I have of it was an Angel like being, that took my hand and pulled me out of my body.

From then on, my memory was blocked from remembering what happened. But, I knew something terrible had happened to me. My father had friends that were pedophiles, they would have parties and with all the kids over. Their parents would get drunk, some would chase the kids.

During those parties, I was raped. After, in my mind I became a superhero. I would punch, kick and scream at any adult that came near the kids. When they came running towards me, whoever was following had me challenging them. “I will kill you in your sleep!”  This went on for a couple of years.

At the age of 44 I had a hallucination so vivid, it triggered a psychotic break. My body was forced down from an unseen force. When I was on the floor wondering what the fuck was going on this time, I realized the pressure on my hips felt like giant hands. I started screaming, as the fragmented memories came back. He was in me again.

I have one alter, so far. He is 5 years old and very mischievous. The only time he has taken control of me as an adult that I know of, was at a bar with some friends in a blackout drunk.

I only remembered after my friends explained my actions to me. When they described what I did and said, some of his memories came to the front. It was the childish behavior and thoughts coming to me that allowed me to know his mind. He was separate from me. It was him that was in control of my actions and perceptions that night.

The kernel of my traumatizations is finally revealed.

December 12, 2017

On the Issue of Transgender People in the Military

Let me break it down, if you are here to learn or share. If you are here for nefarious reasons, I reserve the right to make fun of you. To educate the masses, of course.

All of the arguments against transgender people serving have already been answered. It's true. Hold on, let me explain.

It's the same arguments used against all minorities before they were given the same rights. They did the same to African-Americans, and women, serving in the military in the first half of last century.

Then they questioned the wisdom of women in combat decades later. And AGAIN, recently in combat roles such as the infantry and special forces. Women grunts serve today. The same tired arguments will soon be put to rest.

But, before I get into why they should be openly allowed in the military. Let me say that transgender people go through, arguably (if you are a bigot, or racist, or have hate in your heart), the worst public shamming, ridicule and violence. Add family rejection, the transgender population suffers from a high rate of suicide.

If it was a choice, they would just change their mind, rather than kill themselves. People who are transgender have to be tough to stand up and openly identify with who they are, with the opposition coming from all directions.

They did, do, and will make fierce warriors.

I would argue that transgender people have served since the beginning. LGBT people use to serve under the "Don't ask, don't tell" doctrine. Before that? Well, they didn't tell then either.

LGBT Marines, soldiers, airmen, seamen and Coast Guard hid their identity until Obama said they could serve openly. Then 45 tried to take it back until the courts, rightly so, shut him down. Now, here we are debating what's already been debated, and proved.

No one is calling for different standards, so take that argument where it might get a bite. The same argument was used against women. The military did not reduce the standards for women in combat roles. I reject that bait, trolls.

If you still insist on questioning the wisdom of transgender people serving in the military. First, I want you to consider that you might be a racist or bigot. Hold your judgement till the end, please. If that doesn't capture your character, and need some more clarification. Please read on.

For those of you confused by the terms;

A transgender person is someone who identifies as the opposite sex they were born with. Not all trans people take hormones, or transition. Most transgender people only transition half the way, as hormone therapy is cheaper than surgery. Also in some states the laws keep people from transitioning, and or delay the process for years. Plus the stigma and fear. Some, they fully transition.

A cross-dresser is a straight (yes, straight men wear dresses), bi or gay man that like to dress in women's clothes. I have never heard a transgender person call themselves a cross-dresser.

As for the medication argument;

Say a straight soldier, he or she, has a medical issue where they start producing less or more of one hormone. He needs testosterone replacement therapy, so that he will not grow breast. If he waits too long, his hips and face will also start taking on a feminine shape.

Or, say a female soldier started producing too much testosterone and grew facial and body hair? She too risks waiting too long, her face and body structure will begin to morph from the increase in muscles.

Would you deny that, straight soldier, a hormone treatment they needed to appear the sex they identify with? You will not die from this condition (answers you give may determine, if you have a tenancy for bigotry and racism - you can change).

Also, think about this. The military is having a hard time filling slots. They are opening all positions to everyone in order to make their quotas. If they cannot maintain readiness, they will have to institute a draft.

Equality for all is a basic human right.