The ambiguity of family dynamics can lead to mixed feelings or even a lack of feelings depending on the degree of possible neglect or abuse. We rely on our parental figures to shape our personality and values structures, through attachments with significant others, the attachments become avenues of exchange. If this exchange becomes distorted to the point of the child becoming a repository instead a healthy exchange of proper boundaries, then the nature of our attachments may become warped.
Attachments can be considered the vehicles of spontaneity, to become spontaneous the person must develop a mechanism for the free exchange of intimacy and interpersonal skill sets. Without a healthy development of attachments then disorganized attachments form. The d-attachments become the mechanism to gauge interactions in the environment and in doing so they become rigid, an if this then that kind of existence.
The d-attachment arraignment only allows for what can be controlled under a series of contingencies plans, or procedural knowledge, usually modeled after our parental attachments, an identification with the aggressor or other such negative role model.
The mind can develop into split affective regions where multiple self-states dissociate the incompatible values systems and set up residence along with establishing a unified substructure within matching internal guidance systems. The dissociated subsystems run parallel to other self-states and emerge when a particular skill set needs to asserted pertaining to situational interactions. Here the trauma based disorders may lead the symptomology into further entrenching of compartmentalization, and neglectful family structures may lead to personality disorders.
The cycle of procedural enactments play out in significant others that we allow in our lives, the reason why we keep having the same argument and never finding a resolution. We enact our past roles and project them into our relationships acting out the roles of our prior childhood to attempt to resolve the attachments constructively. Since we have not been shown healthy attachment enactments then we reside in the cycle of d-attachments and further compound our disorders through retraumatization and or neglect, predisposing the person to develop trauma based disorders or personality disorders.