tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post6311718857417461191..comments2023-06-28T07:59:16.685-04:00Comments on PTSD: A Soldier's Perspective: Communicate with PTSD VeteranScott Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-58433367234141317282013-10-01T20:29:36.597-04:002013-10-01T20:29:36.597-04:00I think the worst experiences we have had with so ...I think the worst experiences we have had with so called PTSD therapists are they refuse to believe. My son is a combat veteran. He led over 158 missions with contact and casualties. At one time his so called VA therapist told him he could not have done or seen what he had seen. So he printed out his medical file with his multiple injuries, and pictures he was required to take of the wounded and dead. over 100 individuals. He then slambed them on her desk. So much for those stupid therapists. it is not all the incoming, the alerts, the bullets winging by that he has a problem with, it is knowing his men died in his arms for NOTHING. They were missing parts that identified them as MEN, and then killed themselves because they could not live with what they were ordered to do against everything we believe in.. what they had to do under orders or threats of a bullet in the brain from other us officers that really bugs him. I am so sick of hearing about all those programs that help combat veterans. I have applied to over 25 and all they want is my money and not help my veteran. mil mom I am fighting for him and his rights to appropriate care and treatment for brain damage, as well as other injuries that need surgeries.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-65000038105850008642013-04-21T18:47:18.368-04:002013-04-21T18:47:18.368-04:00Unresolved trauma causes us to emote our emotions ...Unresolved trauma causes us to emote our emotions often leading to misread intentions"<br /> I loved that you spoke about micro expressions Scott. One of the programs I had designed presented this as a huge issues for veterans with PTSD- being misread and misreading emotions which creates a cascading effect of misreading intentions and our intentions being misread. <br />It's a precarious tight rope walk with emotions PRSD an perception. I really relate with your writing even though my PTSD diagnosis is from military sexual trauma. Thanks for writingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623027330511630506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-28298699840445753982013-04-21T14:29:07.371-04:002013-04-21T14:29:07.371-04:00Mr. Lee, your post was amazing find. I'm in sc...Mr. Lee, your post was amazing find. I'm in school right now to become a counselor for those who are living with PTSD. You have definitely given me another view that can be used to help people.Jillianne Jacqueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04757590748852428750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-32138674879514069192013-03-24T23:45:06.775-04:002013-03-24T23:45:06.775-04:00I just stumbled across this and, WOW!!! What coura...I just stumbled across this and, WOW!!! What courage you have to share all this and with such eloquence. I am a wife of a PTSD and TBI Vet and I want to say thank you. Your words have given me some more insight into my husbands brain today, which means more to me than I could ever express. Please don't ever stop writing, you are helping many, I'm sure.<br />LauraAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02388203974529784349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-60143488376715931782013-02-05T14:08:21.861-05:002013-02-05T14:08:21.861-05:00Colleen, you are welcome. You made my day too, I a...Colleen, you are welcome. You made my day too, I appreciate taking the time to let me know I made an impact.Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-63079282818904330902013-02-05T12:47:53.204-05:002013-02-05T12:47:53.204-05:00Scott, thank you so much for saying this. It help...Scott, thank you so much for saying this. It helps me to understand my loved one much better. It's verification. It's knowing that I CAN trust what I'm feeling about how he's acting. You've made my day. Again, thank you so much. Colleen Pridemorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278171391149842551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-49508867675251910852013-01-23T10:24:42.665-05:002013-01-23T10:24:42.665-05:00I was talking to my step daughter the other day ab...I was talking to my step daughter the other day about communication and how part of it is listening. That one of the most important bits of communication is being able to paraphrase. This avoids much confusion if the parameters are set up first. Such as discussing how we talk and listen to one another. It's most important when we are stressed and during boundary overstepping. <br /><br />The walls we have up were there during deployment, we begin to notice this high state of alertness when we come home. It either dissipates or remains. If it remains and begins to get worse then it's time to seek help. Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-20976992447332809542013-01-23T10:14:40.321-05:002013-01-23T10:14:40.321-05:00Good thing to work on!I think alto of us put up wa...Good thing to work on!I think alto of us put up walls when we come home!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-76531427398914331792013-01-21T11:09:45.606-05:002013-01-21T11:09:45.606-05:00The worst I have received is being excluded from m...The worst I have received is being excluded from my grandsons life, I've actually considered moving. A geographical move would imply that was the reason grandpa never visited.<br /><br />Unresolved trauma causes us to emote our emotions often leading to misread intentions. Our inner battle when discerned usually leads to people leaving us alone. We isolate for self preservation and the overwhelming amount of energy coping costs. The inner battle displayed through microexpressions often becomes the source of misread social cues. They think our sign says, "Nope, don't come over here." When brazenly it says, "Uh, sure I'll talk to you. But, trust in you, I do not."<br /><br />That bit of silent communication in social circles would exclude many from approaching. Survivors challenge people and that my friend is the major reason most don't stick around. It's a defensive mechanism that serves to protect us. Our minds scream to tell us that we'll be hurt again if we put ourselves out there. <br /><br />Part of my personal mission is to work on including people in my life.<br />Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-89613832158854852862013-01-20T22:34:32.160-05:002013-01-20T22:34:32.160-05:00I think the worst thing I have heard is, "I t...I think the worst thing I have heard is, "I thought you needed space so I didn't approach you."<br /><br />That may be true of civilians who have experienced trauma and even some veterans. The best course of action is to ask to approach. Assuming we need space leaves us lonely and isolated and thinking no one wants to be near the crazy veteran.M. Burnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17740424912554793345noreply@blogger.com