tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post6042253919524039127..comments2023-06-28T07:59:16.685-04:00Comments on PTSD: A Soldier's Perspective: A Veteran Father Struggles With Family Court and Child SupportScott Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-7846712120688735112018-12-08T01:05:19.742-05:002018-12-08T01:05:19.742-05:00I just read this and it really helped me with unde... I just read this and it really helped me with understanding what has went so wrong in my life. In 1994 my ship was on deployment in the gulf region. I had prior marriage problems left unresolved prior to shipping out. I left understanding that it was my duty and hoped to repair my marriage problems once i returned. towards the end of our tour in the gulf, my marriage was close to be over. My wife maintained contract with her friends that were married to my other shipmates. The navy was offering a early out program which her friends husbands were aloud to discharge from our ship while on deployment. My wife would believe me when i told her i applied for it also but was denied. i wrote my congressman and senator which also ask for my early discharge. They both were denied due to what the said i was vital to ships movement. When i returned i took leave and tried to save my marriage but shortly after i discharged with an honorable discharge i was in divorce procedings. I got a drunk driving charge a month after i got out. I have been messed up ever since i left the navy. I tried to re enlist but was denied i think due to my request for early out due to marriage problems. I have lost my children and have barely been getting by for the last 15 years. I am sure this story was to late for me and i dearly wish it was available at my time of need. Get your article out there for people like me. I really think it could help someone so they don't have to live like me asking what is wrong with me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17602899764813962764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-80287057742131810642018-04-24T04:53:31.432-04:002018-04-24T04:53:31.432-04:00Hello I'M a disabled veteran who currently re...Hello I'M a disabled veteran who currently reside in Riverside CA and have joint legal custody, but have our children mother fails to adhere to current orders set for both of us. The courts of riverside for the 10 days she has our children are requiring me to pay $688 a month in child support because they are using my VA disability and Social Security and using it as my income. It makes it extremely difficult being disabled and taking care of my children, but do it because they are my life, but more difficult paying my ex a ton in support for 10 days. Plus having to pay $1500 in attorney fees. If any guidance I would most appreciate it. <br />Thank You again for your time<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-48415108418142489822017-01-15T21:47:35.427-05:002017-01-15T21:47:35.427-05:00I was discriminated against in a court of law for ...I was discriminated against in a court of law for being a veteran by a person that's not even a US citizen please me read sign and share my petition.<br /><br />https://www.change.org/p/president-of-the-united-states-veterans-are-being-discriminate-against-in-custody-cases-in-texas-for-having-disabilities?recruiter=661973024&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylinkAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146954057911647827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-67460911579412955292016-10-08T17:43:16.431-04:002016-10-08T17:43:16.431-04:00Stay strong dude. I t appears this guy may not ge...Stay strong dude. I t appears this guy may not get back to you soon. But there are things you can do. Like one, get out of that state. Florida, Hawaii, and Washington state all hate fathers. I know, trust me. MY case started in Hawaii. Out of 14 people, I was the only male. Even the bailiff was a woman. Look man, the feminists have infiltrated all these organizations. So you are going to have to actually know the law. You will have to find attorneys who actually help you with paperwork, but you represent yourself. It is cheaper, but certainly not perfect. You are on a slow, and totally uphill climb. Where your exes start out at the top, and are institutionally fortified at it. You have to stop thinking about how things "should be" and start realizing how they are actually. Two separate women huh? Ouch. Finding out that being a playa does not work unless rich the hard way. Yeah, I sorta did the same. My first son's mom saw me coming. I had no clue how evil and conniving she was. These women know exactly how it works, and have many women around them who will tell them how best to maximize all the benefits. Never think she cares about you. And never expect the courts to do their jobs. That is not what they are their for. Their actual job is to ruin you financially, so you can't ever afford an appeal, and increase the money the state can claim for title IV-D benefits from the federal tax payer. The mothers, well they are just chilling with all the benefits. Don't let them tell you otherwise. If they do, try and ask them how much they get after you already know what they qualify for. The fact that you, and the taxpayers are funding their whole life for free, will never dawn on them that they are messed up. Good luck. Wish I had better news.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05242236170632269568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-67608651311494319332016-09-21T13:25:41.830-04:002016-09-21T13:25:41.830-04:00Hi my name is Cedric Sanders and I live in Florida...Hi my name is Cedric Sanders and I live in Florida and my son lives in Washington State and my daughter lives in Hawaii. I'm a 20 year retired Navy Veteran that pays over $1500 a month in Child support. I have filed 3 modifications to lower my support and it has been denied. I have been homeless and have lost all of my military memories that I had in storage including pictures and uniforms as well as clothes. I haven't worked since 2013 which is when I moved here. I can't get the help I need from the VA since being diagnosed with anxiety but being told you have PTSD and not be diagnosed is another thing. No lawyer will take my case. I went from making $60000 a year to $13000. How is this justified?? I been trying to get help and no one does. God bless you for this platform and I pray things get better for all that are going through this and some type of law or something gets approved to help veterans. God Bless!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931198731800414827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-64451685336658705732016-09-21T13:25:08.163-04:002016-09-21T13:25:08.163-04:00Hi my name is Cedric Sanders and I live in Florida...Hi my name is Cedric Sanders and I live in Florida and my son lives in Washington State and my daughter lives in Hawaii. I'm a 20 year retired Navy Veteran that pays over $1500 a month in Child support. I have filed 3 modifications to lower my support and it has been denied. I have been homeless and have lost all of my military memories that I had in storage including pictures and uniforms as well as clothes. I haven't worked since 2013 which is when I moved here. I can't get the help I need from the VA since being diagnosed with anxiety but being told you have PTSD and not be diagnosed is another thing. No lawyer will take my case. I went from making $60000 a year to $13000. How is this justified?? I been trying to get help and no one does. God bless you for this platform and I pray things get better for all that are going through this and some type of law or something gets approved to help veterans. God Bless!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931198731800414827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-77506023920580289392016-03-06T11:28:52.086-05:002016-03-06T11:28:52.086-05:00Apologize I've been away for a while. Are you ...Apologize I've been away for a while. Are you still needing help probably contact me let me know I'm here now.Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-18228544170996605652016-03-06T11:28:46.382-05:002016-03-06T11:28:46.382-05:00That's exactly what we're talking about he...That's exactly what we're talking about here so let's talk about it more right?Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-9139601050422298652016-03-06T11:28:40.365-05:002016-03-06T11:28:40.365-05:00My kids were taken away from me because of my PTSD...My kids were taken away from me because of my PTSD. I didn't see them for 6 years. It is a travestyScott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-18246717908874107292016-03-06T11:28:33.645-05:002016-03-06T11:28:33.645-05:00My kids were taken away from me because of my PTSD...My kids were taken away from me because of my PTSD. I didn't see them for 6 years. It is a travestyScott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-17704460219365576912016-03-06T11:27:45.984-05:002016-03-06T11:27:45.984-05:00That's exactly what we're talking about he...That's exactly what we're talking about here so let's talk about it more right?Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-55665815108284633562016-03-06T11:27:21.018-05:002016-03-06T11:27:21.018-05:00Apologize I've been away for a while. Are you ...Apologize I've been away for a while. Are you still needing help probably contact me let me know I'm here now.Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-86198101821179814712015-09-22T02:34:04.346-04:002015-09-22T02:34:04.346-04:00Good article people need to hear about ptsd and fa...Good article people need to hear about ptsd and family court abuseDexion10https://www.blogger.com/profile/10592667738347856800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-81878199765569145092014-11-24T21:28:39.650-05:002014-11-24T21:28:39.650-05:00I like how you comment how they realize that we th...I like how you comment how they realize that we they are "potentially signing away our lives to their country"and that "they did not sign away their humanity." May I suggest that you talk more about single fathers raising their kids and also suffer from PTSD. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-74900404203631819562014-11-01T22:25:12.830-04:002014-11-01T22:25:12.830-04:00And to the administrator--I just commented, and I ...And to the administrator--I just commented, and I believe an email got to you from me, if you must edit (you may not like the link) do what you will, looking for all the help I can get with this...ThanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-27530682239254701042014-11-01T22:22:51.802-04:002014-11-01T22:22:51.802-04:00I recently heard our President say mental illness ...I recently heard our President say mental illness would be a major priority, especially among veterans. But in that regard, this President has been no better, or worse, than the the preceding 4 (they're all I can comment on). My brother was a mechanic for the Air Force--worked on every plane that was in Andrews Air Force base, including the Stealth, and he held a degree in Aerospace Engineering...after 5 years, he went into the reserves, and was paid as a civilian. When he was activated 4 years ago, the job they sent him to was unthinkable--boxing up soldiers, who mostly had been victims of IEDs. It was horrific for him; as it would be for anyone, but he was no doctor, or mortician, or had any special training to be in that job--he was really someone who never should have seen combat--not because he was afraid of it, but using a highly skilled asset that way, a real Rocket Scientist, seems unreal. He never came back from the time overseas. He was different. He was no longer kind, no longer had any joy, seemed no longer a person. He couldn't keep up with his job anymore. In his honor, I won't detail his problems, but they are the same ones I see over and over as I read articles on PTSD. The help he received was minimal and consisted mostly of pills. He lost his job, then his home, then his wife and two children. Unable to keep up with his Reserve work, he was allowed an honorable discharge at 19 years, and received no retirement pay--when it is my belief he should have been put on disability retirement pay, and I am beginning to work on that now, if anyone can help me, so that his wife (they were only separated) and children can receive the benefits please let me know--there is no hope of my brother receiving them...he lost his battle with PTSD and depression 6 months ago today. <br /><br />http://www.gofundme.com/casualtiesofwarAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com