tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post7509207371703268751..comments2023-06-28T07:59:16.685-04:00Comments on PTSD: A Soldier's Perspective: What to do With a Drug and Alcohol AbuserScott Leehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-33522098457559970652009-08-14T02:14:24.302-04:002009-08-14T02:14:24.302-04:00Susan,
There's a great group you need to conta...Susan,<br />There's a great group you need to contact called <a href="http://nami.org" rel="nofollow">NAMI</a>. NAMI is in many communities and maybe even yours. They are there for caretakers, families, friends, and even patients. Mostly they are there for those who like you, have navigated the unsteady waters of your son. I've sat in on support groups and have listened to mothers now in the 60's with sons who have been hauled in and out of jail. <br /><br />They're great with practical advice like you've gotten and can be a lifeline.Kananihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08317494343177263398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-84051620916515321202009-08-14T00:23:03.951-04:002009-08-14T00:23:03.951-04:00Susan, lets rip that veil off completely.
If he i...Susan, lets rip that veil off completely.<br /><br />If he is doing all that you say--he is a full blown chronic addict.<br /> <br />You said it yourself, "the little boy you raised" would not have done the things you have listed.<br /><br />The drugs have a hold on him, he is not the same person he was, quit expecting him to not behave like an addict.<br /><br />You kid yourself again when you say that you are safe. <br /><br />A downward spiral in an addicts behavior gets progressively worse over time. Think back on the progression of his using, a little money gone, becoming moody, etc. <br /><br />He could become violent when his manipulation does not work anymore. <br /><br />Pam had an excellent suggestion, Al-Anon would give you the tools to weather the storm you face and you may find some communion with people in similar situations.Scott Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17861938200417302754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-71091480477066664362009-08-13T23:05:46.221-04:002009-08-13T23:05:46.221-04:00Scott and Susan,
Thanks for sharing raw emotions. ...Scott and Susan,<br />Thanks for sharing raw emotions. Susan a suggestion for you is to find a support group called Al-Anon in your area. You should be able to google Al-Anon and you will find a meeting close to your home. It is a 12 step support group for those who love addicts/alcoholics.<br />In His Name,<br />PamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207713177773691778.post-74275713131941282882009-08-13T19:00:48.995-04:002009-08-13T19:00:48.995-04:00From Susan
Thank you for your reply to my post. ...From Susan<br /><br />Thank you for your reply to my post. I hope it helps others. It has helped me remove my 'veil of denial'. So much of what you said is true.<br /><br />My son has done the following which ring true to what you say:<br />1. He is bordering on becoming a pathological liar. The little boy I raised could not lie to me.<br />2. He has sold thousand of dollars of rare coins that were bought for him for $80 worth of drugs.<br />3. He does what I call, 'bully me' into giving into his unrealistic demands. He knows that after God, I love him the most and he uses that weakness against me. His words and disrespect bring me to near 'breaking'. Physically, I am safe. I get this 'crazy mother' look when I get mad and that could scare the Devil away.<br /><br />Mentally, his bullying borders on debilitating.<br /><br />4. He could be self medicating. There is a history there. I am more inclined to believe that it is peer pressure. His so called friends are not the best.<br /><br />5. I realie now that I have been enabling him and masking it as if I was a wise and noble mother. But really, I was masking my enabling as love. He pulls me so easily into his crap.<br /><br />6. I have not let him in the house when he came home high and slurring his words. It is my home and I don't have to live with a drug addict. The last time he slept in an alley. He knows the next time I catch him, he won't be back.<br /><br />Where I go from here, I am not sure. I pray for strength to weather this storm. God always does answer my prayers. <br /><br />Thank you again. I am of the opinion that after all your struggles you may have found your true profession. Maybe you should not limit your knowledge and education to just helping veterans. There are a lot of broken people out there.<br /><br />Humbly,<br /><br />Susan O.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com